James Donaldson on Mental Health – Youth Suicide: Warning Signs Every Parent Should Know

No parent wants to think about the possibility that their child might be considering suicide. But the reality is that suicide is the second leading cause of death among young people ages 10 to 34 in the United States. Knowing the warning signs — and knowing how to respond — could be the most important thing a parent ever learns.

Warning signs are not always obvious. Some young people who are struggling will tell someone directly — 'I want to die' or 'I wish I wasn't here.' But many will communicate their pain in subtler ways. Watch for: withdrawal from friends, family, and activities they used to enjoy; changes in sleep patterns (sleeping too much or too little); giving away prized possessions; a sudden calm after a period of depression (which can indicate a decision has been made); increased talk about death or dying; and dramatic mood swings.

If you notice these signs, don't wait. Ask directly: 'Are you thinking about suicide?' Research consistently shows that asking about suicide does not plant the idea — it opens a door. Many young people feel profound relief when someone finally asks.

Listen without judgment. Your child doesn't need you to fix their pain in that moment — they need to feel heard. Avoid minimizing their feelings ('You have so much to live for') or problem-solving before they've finished talking. Just be present.

Remove access to lethal means. This is one of the most evidence-based suicide prevention strategies available. If there are firearms in the home, store them locked and unloaded, or temporarily remove them. Secure medications. Time and distance from lethal means saves lives.

Get professional help immediately. Contact your child's pediatrician, a mental health professional, or take them to an emergency room if you believe they are in immediate danger. You can also call or text 988 together with your child.

Remember: you are not alone in this. Millions of families have navigated this crisis and come through it. Reach out to the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (call or text 988) for guidance, support, and resources — for your child and for yourself.